If You’re a Mom, You’re Overwhelmed

July 11, 2011 – 8:57 pm

Despite the fact that we live in a free country and that we have the power to choose our own life paths, the age-old battle between working moms and stay at home moms is still going strong.  SAHMs criticize working moms for putting their careers ahead of their family; working mothers condemn SAHMs for their lack of professional ambition.  It’s very difficult for SAHMs and working mothers to find common ground.  I often find myself caught in the crossfire of this war as I spend my weekdays at home with my kids and spend my weekends and nights working hard – at home and elsewhere – to support my family.  I can understand the advantages and stresses that come with both positions.  Furthermore, I can testify that regardless of what you’re doing – whether you’re changing a diaper or negotiating a merger – motherhood is overwhelming.  And according to a recent survey conducted by TheBump.com and Forbes woman, I am not alone.

The survey polled 1,200 mothers and found that 92% of working moms and 89% of stay at home moms feel overwhelmed by their parental and domestic duties.  84% of stay at home moms claim they don’t get a break when their partner returns from work and 50% of SAHMs say they never get a break from parenting (while 96% testify that their partners are able to find time for themselves).  Both groups harbor resentment for the “unbalanced responsibilities and a third of all moms say they feel their partner could step it up on the domestic front.”  A surprising number of respondents confess that they feel like “married single moms.”

That’s why regardless of where or how you work, it’s important to carve out time for yourself.  Coordinate a parenting schedule with your partner and make sure you allot yourself a half an hour every day to rest and recuperate from the toils and traumas of the day.  Make sure that the chores are distributed evenly among you and your spouse (about 24% of working moms claim that they do the majority of the parenting and household work).  And don’t be afraid to ask for help.  Motherhood is a joy and a challenge.  It’s okay to reach for a helping hand every now and then.

For more detailed results from the survey, click here.


About Andrea Hart
Andrea Hart is a freelance writer, a student, a teacher, a wife and a mother to two rambunctious boys. She currently resides in Southeastern PA.
  1. 2 Responses to “If You’re a Mom, You’re Overwhelmed”

  2. In my opinion, I believe that both arguments are valid. We cannot neglect our families in the ardent pursuit of income, and on the other hand, we need income to support the family we love.

    I think the matter is, how much time do we apportion to each task? It is common to see working moms lots of time on optional overtime hours. Once the day’s work is done, we can go home to see how the kids we left are doing. Conversely, if we have older kids who can manage their lives to some extent, we can spend a few hours we take to superintend them, to work. We gain in both cases – more work to buy home supplies and kids get the care they need.

    In conclusion, it is quite recommendable for mums to pick work at home jobs that pay daily or monthly and not hourly. Doing a work that requires strict observance of time, draws us away from kids because you cant take a break as you wish to see to them.

    By Doreen S. on Jul 12, 2011

  3. Today I was watching a segment of “The View” and they referenced this study. Joy Behar also made a disparaging remark about stay-at-home mothers. She said something like “what are they overwhelmed by, being bored?” The rest of the panel defended SAHMs and acknowledged how difficult it is to stay with the children all day. I just thought it was interesting that they were having this discussion the day after I posted this article!

    By Andrea on Jul 12, 2011

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